Betrayal hurts, and not just a little; it hurts in a deep, personal way. It’s not like bumping your knee or having a bad day. Betrayal feels like someone reached into your chest, touched your heart, and then just walked away.
Maybe it was a friend who stopped calling, someone you loved who broke their promise, or a family member who turned their back on you when you needed them most.
Whatever the story, the pain feels heavy. It’s confusing, and it can leave you asking, “Why did they do this? Was I not enough?”
Here’s the truth: people mess up. Sometimes, they don’t say sorry; sometimes, they pretend like nothing happened, and sometimes, they know they hurt you, and they still don’t come back.
But here’s the good news: God never fails you.
When human love lets you down, God’s love leans in. When people leave you out, he brings you in, and when the hurt feels too big, God says, “I see you, and I’ve got you.”
This post serves as your guide to finding comfort in God when others have let you down. You may feel broken right now, but you’re not beyond repair.
1. Acknowledge the Pain Without Minimizing It
Betrayal hurts more when it comes from someone you trusted, Someone you opened up to, or Someone you let close.
You expected love, honesty, or loyalty, but instead, you got silence, lies, and distance. Or maybe even complete rejection.
And when that happens, it’s easy to push the pain down and say we are fine and that everything is alright.
But let me tell you this: You don’t have to be fine if you’re not. God doesn’t want you to hide your pain or pretend it doesn’t matter. He wants you to bring it to Him just as it is: raw, real, and honest.
In fact, God already knows how much it hurts, but He wants you to talk to Him about it.
2. Talk to God About the Hurt
When someone hurts you, your first reaction might be to talk to a friend, post about it, or keep it all bottled up inside. But you know what? God is the safest place for your pain.
You don’t need fancy words or to say the right thing. You can just be honest.
God isn’t surprised by your tears. He’s not uncomfortable with your anger. He won’t turn away when your heart feels like a mess. He instead invites you to bring it all to Him.
You can say something like:
“God, I didn’t expect this from them, but here I am. It hurts, and I don’t know what to do with it. Please sit with me in this pain.”
You can cry, whisper, or sit in silence and know that your loving father is there.
3. Let Scripture Speak to the Wound
When your heart is hurting, your thoughts can get loud, but here’s something powerful: God’s word speaks louder than the lies.
Remember that the bible isn’t just an old book. It’s living, breathing comfort, and when your heart is broken, scripture becomes a healing balm, like a warm blanket for your soul.
Here are a few verses you can hold onto when betrayal tries to drown you in sadness:
2 Timothy 4:16–17
“Everyone deserted me… But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength.”
Even when people walk away, God stays. You are never truly abandoned.
Isaiah 41:10
“Do not fear, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you…”
God says: You’re not facing this alone. I’ve got you, and I’ll help you through it.
Romans 8:38–39
“Nothing can separate us from the love of God…”
Not heartbreak. Not betrayal. Not even your lowest moment.
How about we try a little exercise: Write one of these verses on a sticky note and put it on your mirror, read one out loud every morning, and journal what it means to you today. Let these promises wrap around your pain, and let them be the truth that speaks louder than the wound.
Read More: 7 Psalms for a broken heart that will comfort you when life hurts
4. Stop Looking for Closure in the Wrong Place
Let’s talk about something hard but freeing: Sometimes, the person who hurt you won’t give you closure. They might never say sorry, act like nothing happened, and even blame you for the issues.
And waiting for them to fix it? That can keep your heart stuck. The truth is, you don’t need them to heal; you only need God.
It’s okay to want answers and normal to want them to feel your pain, but healing doesn’t come from getting the last word; it comes from letting God speak the final word over your life.
And His word says:
- You are loved.
- You are chosen.
- You are not forgotten.
- You will heal.
You don’t have to keep replaying the moment they let you down. You don’t have to keep checking if they noticed your pain. All that matters is that God noticed, He still notices, and He is offering a peace that doesn’t depend on their apology.
Read More: Why the person who broke you can’t be the one to fix you.
5. Invite God Into the Empty Spaces They Left
When someone walks out of your life, especially someone you loved or trusted, it can leave a big, aching space behind.
You may not even realize it, but little things start to remind you of them: the silence, the way you reach for your phone and remember they’re not calling back, the plans you had all now gone.
That space can feel empty, lonely, and heavy, but the beautiful truth is that when people walk away from you, God moves right in if we let him.
He’s not afraid of your heartbreak, nor does that put him off. The truth is that he wants to fill those empty places with His peace, His presence, and His love.
I invite you to create a comfortable corner in your home where you can sit in the presence of God, light a candle, and play worship music. Bring your Bible and journal. Let it be your quiet place to just be with Him.
Read More: 5 ways to invite God into your healing journey.
6. Release the Person, Retain the Lesson
You don’t have to carry them forever. The person who lied, ghosted you, used you, blamed you, or broke your heart.
Yes, they hurt you. But no, they don’t get to hold your peace hostage anymore.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean what they did was okay, and it doesn’t mean you have to let them back in. It means you’re choosing freedom over bitterness.
When you hold on to what they did, you carry it everywhere: In your thoughts, your sleep, and into other relationships. But when you hand it over to God? You finally let yourself breathe again.
Here is a simple prayer to pray today:
“God, I don’t want to carry this anymore. I’m tired of holding on to the hurt. I release them into Your hands. And I receive your peace in return.”
The beauty of this is that you don’t walk away empty-handed; you walk away with wisdom. That pain taught you something about boundaries, about red flags, and about your strength.
Please say this with me:
“I release them. I retain the lesson. I choose peace.”
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7. This Pain Won’t Be Wasted
Right now, it may feel like your heart is shattered into pieces that will never fit together again.
You might wonder, “What was the point of all this pain?”
But here’s something true to hold on to: God never wastes a wound.
I promise you that every tear you’ve cried? He’s counted them. (Psalm 56:8). Every moment, you felt unseen. He saw it all.
Every piece of your broken heart? He knows how to rebuild it stronger, softer, and wiser.
You may not see the full picture now, but healing is happening quietly, slowly, and beautifully.
And one day, the same comfort God is giving you right now, you’ll be able to give someone else.
Writing this reminds me of my own journey with the Lord. I’m still amazed at how God used my divorce for His glory. Before that painful season, I didn’t have a personal relationship with Him.
Yes, I was raised in church; Tuesdays were for Bible study, and Thursdays were for prayer meetings. Sundays? We were in Sunday school and both services. And let’s not forget the all-night Friday vigils!
But back then, I didn’t know God for myself. I knew him as the God who parted the Red Sea and delivered the Israelites from Egypt.
Not until my separation and divorce, when everything felt like it was falling apart, did I finally invite God into my healing.
And slowly, everything began to change.
I became more patient. I started giving people more grace, began to put God at the center of every decision, and saw Him move in mighty ways on my behalf.
Now, I can boldly tell you that :
”What the enemy planned for destruction, God has used for His glory.”
You are not just a woman who was betrayed. You are a woman being refined. You are becoming someone who rises, not in bitterness, but in purpose, in peace, and quiet strength.
You didn’t choose the hurt, but with God, you can choose peaceful healing today.
Healing doesn’t happen in one moment, one blog post, or one prayer. But it begins the moment you invite God into the pain.
And you just did that, step by step, one section at a time.
Now, take a breath and feel the peace that’s beginning to rise.
With Love,
Dr Janet
